2) If the sick person cannot speak, he should be urged to think the Vidui in his heart.
If the sick person does not know how to recite or think the Vidui, he should be told to say the following " Yehi ratzon Sh'tehei Misasi Kaparah Al Kol avonosai, May it be the will of Hashem that my death serve as an atonement for all of my sins" (ibid.)
Vidui may be recited with a sick person on Shabbos if by waiting until after Shabbos it may be too late. (See Be'er Heitev Siman 288:3 where he quotes the Seder Hayom's ruling that one may say Vidui on Shabbos when having a bad dream, so surely one who is passing away may say it on Shabbos)
Halachos for Erev Shabbos, July 2 2010
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1) It is proper to remind a sick person to be mochel (forgive) those who may have sinned against him/her in regard to monetary issues or by verbally insulting them or other issues.
Doing this is not only beneficial to those who receive forgiveness; it is also beneficial for the sick person, as Chazal tell us that one who is Ma'avir Al Midosav, (overlooks sins against themselves) merits having Hashem be Ma'avir Al P'Sha'av, (overlook his/her sins.) (See Chochmas Adam Siman 151) (Talmud Yoma 23a)
Likewise, the sick person should ask Mechila (obtain forgiveness) from anyone that he/she may have sinned against financially or otherwise. (ibid.)
2) If the sick person is unlawfully in possession of money or objects belonging to other people, it is of paramount importance to make sure it gets returned to its rightful owner. (See Kitzur Shnei Luchos HaBris (Shla Hakadosh) at length Inyanei Bikur Cholim Dibur Hamaschil Im Gemilus Chasadim, page 256 in the old print)
It is also a good idea for a sick person to do Hatoras Nedarim (annulment of vows) and to give Tzedaka. (Chofetz Chaim in Ahavas Chesed Perek 3:3)
When talking to a sick person regarding all of the aforementioned items (Vidui, Mechilah, Teshuva, getting affairs in order etc.) it is best that there be no women or children in the room, lest they begin to cry and cause the Choleh to become heartbroken. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 338:1)
Halachos for Shabbos Kodesh
1) When there is more than one person who is sick and one must choose between them, the order of precedence follows the same order as when it comes to giving Tzedaka, as we learned in Hilchos Ma'aser :
The order of precedence for giving Tzedaka (in most cases) is as follows :
*Him/herself
*Spouse
*Children under the age of 6
*Parents
*Grandparents
*Children older than 6
*Grandchildren
*Siblings
*Other relatives
*Neighbors
*Poor People from your city (However, if one lives in a large city such as New York, only his immediate neighborhood is considered his city for this purpose according to Rav Shlomo Zalmen Auerbach Zatzal)
*Poor people from other cities
Poor people from Eretz Yisroel take precedence over poor people from other cities (besides your own)
Poor people from Yerushalayim take precedence over poor people from other cities in Israel. (Shu"t Chasam Sofer Yoreh Deah Vol. 2 Siman 274) .
This includes both the new and old cities of Jerusalem (Psak of Rav
Shlomo Zalmen Auerbach Zatzal)
A Kohen takes precedence to a Levi, and a Levi takes precedence over a Yisroel, when their needs are equal. (See Shu"t Shevet Haleivi from Rav Shmuel Wosner Shlita Vol. 3 Siman 125)
2) If the choice is between a Choleh that is a rich man and a Choleh that is a poor man, the poor man takes precedence, as rich people usually have plenty of visitors and people tending to their needs. This applies even if the rich man is a Talmid Chacham. (See Sefer Chasidim 361 and Sefer Gesher HaChaim Perek 1:5. See also Tosefos to Chulin 104b Dibur Hamaschil V'Nosenes. See also Yosef Ometz page 324 regarding the praiseworthiness of visiting poor Cholim)
If the choice is between a Talmid Chacham and an Am Ha'Aretz, the Talmid Chacham takes precedence as doing so honors the Torah. (Sefer Chasidim ibid.)
However, if the Talmid Chacham is not a Yarei Shamayim (does not exhibit signs of fearing heaven, and his Torah knowledge is thus simply academic and thus does not give him any status as it says (Tehilim 111) Reishis Chochma Yiras Hashem) and the Am Ha'Aretz is a Yarei Shamayim, the Am Ha'Aretz should be visited first. (ibid.)
Halachos for Sunday, July 4 2010
1)There are certain sick people who are not visited in person; rather Bikur Cholim is done in other ways from afar.
One who has a stomach ailment or other abdominal pain with bleeding which necessitate frequent trips to the restroom should not be visited, as having visitors present when they have to quickly go to the restroom may cause them embarrassment. (See Talmud Nedarim 41a and Ran and Meiri there. See also Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 335:8)
One who is sick with an eye ailment or with a severe headache should not be visited, as having people talk to them is painful. (See Chochmas Adam Siman 151)
Any sick person who gets agitated or annoyed or whose condition worsens when there is talking in his/her presence, should not be visited. (Shulchan Aruch ibid.)
2)For all instances where entering the room is not acceptable, the visitors should stand outside the room and look in and determine if anything is needed (tidying up, cleaning, food ,medicine etc.) and let the people tending to the Choleh know about the needs. (ibid. See also Biur HaGra S"K 11)
Additionally, the pain of the Choleh should be seen and noted and the visitor should daven for the Choleh while standing outside their room, as davening for the Choleh is the most important part of Bikur Cholim [even for Cholim who are visited] as we learned previously. (Shulchan Aruch ibid. See also Sefer Chasidim Siman 753)
Halachos for Monday, July 5 2010
1)If a close relative of a sick person passes away he/she should not be informed of this sad news, even if it is regarding someone that he/she would otherwise be halachically obligated to rend their garments.
There is no obligation for someone else to rend the sick person's garment. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 337)
Even if he found out about the passing, there is no obligation to have him rend his garments. (See Shach Yoreh Deah 337:1 that by rending the garments it will increase the pain of the sad news.)
2) Nobody should cry or otherwise exhibit signs of sadness and despair in the presence of the Choleh, nor should any Hespedim (eulogies) be said in his/her presence. (Shulchan Aruch ibid.)
The ban on eulogies and despair in the Choleh's presence applies for any people that passed away not just for a relative of the sick person. (See Shach Yoreh Deah 337:2 for the reasoning)
All of the above is so that no unnecessary pain and heartache should be caused to the sick person.
Likewise, if the family is sitting Shiva in the home where the sick person is resting, care must be taken to keep all the people who come for Shiva visits quiet. (Shulchan Aruch ibid.)
Halachos for Tuesday, July 6 2010
1) If an ill person's condition worsens considerably to the point that [medically] it seems that he/she will not recover, it is proper and customary to add on a name, as when one's name changes his/her essence changes as well and thus the heavenly decree that was passed against them can change as well. (Rama Yoreh Deah Siman 335:10)
This is learned out from Avram Avinu and Sarai Imeinu whose destiny it was to die without children, yet after having their names changed to Avraham and Sarah (See Bereishis 17:5 and 15)were indeed able to have a child. (See Talmud Rosh Hashana 16b and Midrash Rabbah to Koheles Perek 5:4. See MaHarsha to Rosh Hashana 16b Dibur Hamaschil Arba Devarim for a detailed discussion about the real effects of a name change. See also Rambam Hilchos Teshuva Perek 2:4)
2) The new name is added in addition to the established name and does not replace the old name. (See Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah Siman 335:12)
(Regarding how to choose a "good" new name to add, see Sefer Chasidim Siman 244 where he discusses using a Goral, a sort of Torah lottery to choose a proper name.
Halachos for Wednesday, July 7 2010
1)It is permitted to visit sick people on Shabbos. (Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim Siman 287:1)
Chazal (Talmud Shabbos 12b) were originally hesitant to allow Bikur Cholim (and Nichum Aveilim) on Shabbos lest the visitor become pained and begin davening for the Choleh in a manner that is prohibited on Shabbos. (See Rashi Dibur Hamaschil B'Koshi)
Although Chazal did not in actuality ban it, it is still best to try and avoid visiting the sick on Shabbos, and surely one should not purposely schedule the visit for Shabbos if he can easily do it on another day of the week.
Of course, if one is too busy to visit the sick during the week, he should surely go do it on Shabbos. (Sha'arei Teshuva Siman 287:1. He writes there that if one is extremely weak hearted and will become extremely distraught when seeing the Choleh's condition, he should indeed not go on Shabbos, a day of pleasure (Oneg) where we avoid unnecessary pain (Tza'ar))
2) If one visited the sick person already in the weekday, he may go visit again on Shabbos, and doing so is in fact a great Mitzvah, as there is no limit to how many times Bikur Cholim can be fulfilled. (See Biur Halacha Siman 287:1)
Halachos for Thursday, July 8 2010
1)On the Yom Tov of Sukkos, one who is tending to a sick person, even a Choleh Sh'Ein Bo Sakana, who is not in grave danger, is exempt from sitting in a Sukkah.
This is because he is engrossed in a Mitzvah, and is thus exempt from other Mitzvos at that time (Osek B'Mitzvah Patur Min HaMitzvah) (Shulchan Aruch Siman 640:3 and Mishna Berura S"K 7. See Bikurei Yaakov, Tosefes Bikurim Siman 640:22 for a different reasoning for this exemption)
Some opinions rule that this is only the case during the actual time that the Choleh needs his assistance, but not the entire time that he is at his bedside.(ibid.)
If two people are assisting the sick person and they aren't both needed together, they should take turns and one should eat in the Sukkah while the other watches over the sick person and then switch places. (Mishna Berura Siman 640:10)
2) If the sick person is a Choleh Sh'Yesh Bo Sakana, and is in grave danger, the one assisting him is exempt from the Sukkah, according to everyone, the entire time he is at the bedside. (Mishna Berura Siman 640:11)
If the person attending to the sick person is getting paid for doing it, he is not halachically considered "Osek B'Mitzvah" and is not exempt from eating in the Sukkah. (Bikurei Yaakov ibid.)
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh, July 9 2010 Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1) It is prohibited to take payment for fulfilling Bikur Cholim [for a short visit whilst standing], as doing so is disrespecting the Mitzvah. (See Talmud Nedarim 39a and Shita MeKubetzes there)
Even if one [sits down and]stays for a little longer time than necessary to fulfill the Mitzvah, it is still prohibited to take payment, as we are concerned that he will end up taking payment for a subsequent short visit, which is prohibited.(See Ritva to Nedarim 39a)
2) However, if one sits down for a long visit with the sick person, he may indeed take payment as we consider it compensation for his time and efforts and not a payment for doing the Mitzvah, which could have been accomplished by standing at the bedside or sitting down for a short time. (See Rambam Hilchos Nedarim Perek 6:8 and Nimukei Yosef to Nedarim 39a)
Halachos for Shabbos Kodesh
1) If a sick person's relatives or friends, or even a total stranger, spent money for his medical expenses (doctor, hospital, medicines etc.) he/she must compensate them for their costs, even if he/she did not specifically request of them to spend this money on his/her behalf.
2) The reason for this is because it is the accepted and praiseworthy custom when someone R"L falls ill and is unable to care of themselves that his/her family and friends come to his/her aid and do whatever is necessary to facilitate healing. (See Shu"t HaRosh Klal 85:2. See also Yad Ramah to Sanhedrin 73a Dibur Hamaschil Tanya Minayin)
Halachos for Sunday, July 11 2010
1) A man may visit a woman that is sick and a woman may visit a man that is sick, as long as they aren't alone in a way that they will Chas V'Shalom transgress the prohibition of Yichud. (See Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah Siman 335:4. Click Here for Halachos of Yichud.)
A man may, in most instances, assist a sick woman, even to lend her a hand to help her get up, lay down and similar assistance. (Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah Siman 335:5. See also Birchei Yosef Yoreh Deah Siman 335:10 why this is different than a man assisting his wife who is not well when she is a Niddah, where it is prohibited.)
However, if the woman is sick with abdominal issues and needs assistance using the restroom or cleaning herself after using the restroom, a man may not assist her as doing so is improper and Pritzus (decadent behavior) and will lead to indecent thoughts or even Chas V'Shalom to the Yetzer Hara overpowering him to act immorally. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 335:10 and Shach and Taz there. See also Maseches Semachos Perek 12 Halacha 10 and commentary of Nachlas Yaakov.)
2) A woman, however, may assist a sick man even with abdominal issues, as the Yetzer Hara of a woman to act immorally is weaker than a man's.
Furthermore, if the man is sick his Yetzer Hara for immorality is weaker, and thus even if the woman would want to act improperly she cannot do so with him in a weakened state. (Shulchan Aruch ibid. See also Darchei Moshe Yoreh Deah 335 where he proves this from the Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 352:3. See also Birchei Yosef ibid. that for a man to have improper thoughts is worse in a sense than for a woman, as it may lead to Hashchosas Zera L'vatalah which is a terrible prohibition only applicable to men)
Halachos for Monday, July 12 2010
1) There is no minimum age for Bikur Cholim, and if children are ill it is a Mitzvah for adults to visit them and all aspects of fulfilling the Mitzvah apply. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 335:2. See also Rashi Nedarim 39b Dibur Hamaschil V'Afilu Gadol Aitzel Katan.)
Likewise, it is a Mitzvah for someone of stature to visit a sick person of lesser stature (e.g. A Talmid Chacham visiting a less learned person), as when it comes to doing the Mitzvah of Bikur Cholim one should not be concerned with his own Kavod, honor and say that it is beneath his dignity, as even the Gadol HaDor (Torah leader of the generation) is obligated to visit the smallest statured Jew when he is sick. (This is learned from the fact that Hashem Himself performed Bikur Cholim when Avraham Avinu was ill. See Shita Mekubetzes to Nedarim 39b and Prisha on the Tur Yoreh Deah Siman 335 Os 5. See also Chofetz Chaim in Ahavas Chesed Vol. 3 Perek 2. We do not apply the concept of "Zaken V'Aino LeFi Kevodo" as we find by Hashovas Aveida that a Talmid Chacham need not return a lost object if by doing so his honor will be diminished. For the reasoning and more on this topic see Shita Mekubetzes ibid., Sefer Shalmei Nedarim to Nedarim 39b and Pachad Yitzchak, Igros, pages 57-60)
2) The Mitzvah of Bikur Cholim applies even to an infant who is ill even though he has no clue that he is being visited as well as to a Choleh who is unconscious or otherwise not aware of his/her surroundings, as the Mitzvah is to see the situation of the Choleh and determine if he needs anything, and this is possible even if the Choleh does not know he is being visited. (See Tur Yoreh Deah Siman 335:1
Halachos for Tuesday, July 13 2010
1) A Jew who intentionally denies and does not keep one [or more] of the Mitzvos of the Torah, but does so for his/her own pleasure or convenience and not for the purpose of rebelling against Hashem or angering Him (known in Halachic terms as a Mumar L'TeiaVon), is still considered a Jew as long as he/she believes in the thirteen fundamental principles of Judaism (The Yud Gimel Ikrim written by the Rambam which can be found in its extensive version in his Pirush HaMishnayos of the 10th Perek of Sanhedrin and in an abridged version in most siddurim following the morning prayers).
Thus, if the aforementioned Jew is sick it is a Mitzvah to visit him and all the Halachos of Bikur Cholim apply to him. (See Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 251:1 and Rama Sif 2 that it is optional and not mandatory. However, see Biur HaGra there who rules that it is mandatory.)
2) However, if one intentionally denies even one Mitzvah in the Torah and does so with rebellious intentions (known in Halachic terms as Mumar L'Hachis), he is not considered a Jew and it is prohibited to visit him when he is sick or otherwise save his life. (Shulchan Aruch ibid. Sif 2; See Shach there Os 3 who rules that it is also prohibited to feed and financially support such a person)
If the person who is sick denies [at least one Mitzvah of] the Torah, but we aren't sure if he does so rebelliously or out of lust, convenience or another personal pleasure, we can assume it's the latter and we indeed should visit him. (See Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah Siman 251:1)
Halachos for Wednesday, July 14 2010
1) A Jew about who it is well known that he is an idol worshipper, Mechalel Shabbos publicly or a government informer [regarding other Jews], even if he does these things L'Teiavon, for his own pleasure, and not in a rebellious way, has lost his status as a Jew [as long as he doesn't do Teshuva] and no kindness, including Bikur Cholim, should be afforded him. (Chofetz Chaim in Sefer Ahavas Chesed Dinei Mitzvas Halva'ah Perek 3:3)
However, if it isn't proven and is only rumored that one is in violation of one of the aforementioned sins, he retains his status as a full fledged Jew (until proven otherwise) and he must be visited when he is sick. (ibid.)
2) A Jew who is not religious and does not follow the laws of the Torah , but is living as such due to lack of proper Jewish education (referred to in Halacha as Tinok Shenishba, i.e. a child that was captured and raised by non Jews, and thus had no way of receiving a proper Jewish education) retains his status as a kosher Jew and must be visited when sick.
Most non religious Jews today fall under the aforementioned category and as such should be treated as our brothers and sisters , with warmth and compassion ,and gently influenced to see the beauty of Yiddishkeit and helped in their journey back to Torah true Judaism and closeness to our Father in heaven.
The main thing, of course, is to ensure that no Chilul Hashem results from any of our actions towards our non religious brethren, or any time. (See Chazon Ish Yoreh Deah Siman 2:16)
Halachos for Thursday, July 15 2010
1) If there are two people in a city who are on their death beds, one of them is a righteous or average person (Tzadik, or a Beinoni) and the other one is an evil person (Rasha) and they both require someone to say Vidui with them before passing away, the Rasha takes precedence.
The reason for this is that the Rasha definitely transgressed sins for which there is no atonement besides death, and thus surely requires the Vidui in order for his death to facilitate atonement, while the Tzadik or Beinoni may have received Kapara via yesurim (physical or other earthly afflictions) or other methods while alive, and did not necessarily transgress any sins for which only death can atone. (See Hagahos Chochmas Shlomo from Rav Shlomo Kluger Zatzal to Yoreh Deah Siman 338:1)
2) Although there is no Mitzvah of Bikur Cholim to visit non Jewish sick people, it is still the accepted custom to visit them to avoid animosity (Mipnei Darchei Shalom) (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 335:9)
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh, July 16 2010
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1) If one has the Mitzvah of Bikur Cholim to perform and also the Mitzvah of Nichum Aveilim (comforting a mourner), and he has the time to accomplish both, the Bikur Cholim should be done first, as tending to the needs of the sick person and davening for him/her will "give life" to them. (See Shach Yoreh Deah Siman 335 S"K 11)
If, however, only one of the two can be performed, Nichum Aveilim takes precedence, as it is considered a kindness with both the living and the deceased. (See Rama Yoreh Deah Siman 335:10 and Rambam Hilchos Avel Perek 14:7. See commentary of Radvaz to the Rambam there where he seems to argue and maintains that Bikur Cholim should always take precedence, as abstaining from Bikur Cholim is tantamount to "spilling blood")
2) If any one individual's visit will have a special significance to the sick person (e.g. an extremely close friend or a dignitary or if the visitor brings with him food or medicine that will surely serve to improve the sick person's situation.) then Bikur Cholim will take precedence in this instance over Nichum Aveilim, even if there is no time to accomplish both. (Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah Siman 335:12)
Halachos for Shabbos Kodesh
1) Bikur Cholim is best done in person, as many of the aspects of Bikur Cholim can only be accomplished when one is physically in the presence of the Choleh.
However, if one cannot visit a sick person, there is still good reason to call them on the telephone to do Bikur Cholim, as certain aspects can still be accomplished from afar. (See Igros Moshe Yoreh Deah Vol. 1 Siman 223 and Shu"t Minchas Yitzchak Vol. 2 Siman 84)
2) The Mitzvah of Bikur Cholim applies even to sick people who are ill with a sickness that can be contagious. Of course the visitor should maintain some distance to avoid getting affected. (See Shu"t Rama Siman 20. See also Chofetz Chaim in Ahavas Chesed Bikur Cholim Perek 3 end of footnote Dibur Hamaschil Isa B'Nedarim that the zechus of the Mitzvah of Bikur Cholim will protect him from becoming ill.)
If, however, the disease is highly contagious to the point that it is almost certain that any visitors will get affected (as is sometimes the case R"L that patients need to be isolated in a sterile room) there is no obligation to go and visit, as the Torah does not require one to put himself in clear danger to fulfill the Mitzvah. (See Mishna Berura Siman 329:19 where he writes that one shouldnt be overly cautious either.)
Of course, other aspects of Bikur Cholim that do not require physical contact (such as davening for them, calling them on the phone etc.) still apply.